Recent Couples Counseling Posts

Humor an Attractive Quality in Partners

Posted by on Sep 25, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Humor an Attractive Quality in Partners

It comes as no surprise that studies show how much we value humor in our relationships.  Humor can be an elixir in our lives because laughter increases blood circulation, boosts the immune system, and triggers the release of dopamine.  According to one survey, about 80% of both men and women find it “important” for their partner to laugh at their jests.  Interestingly, most men want to “be” the funny one in the relationship, while women are more apt to fall for a man on the basis of his humor.  Perhaps humor indicates creativity and...

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The Smart Phone Era and Logging Off

Posted by on Sep 23, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on The Smart Phone Era and Logging Off

Communicating in the digital age has become so instant that many people are having a difficult time logging off – even during meals and private time.  According to David Meyer, a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, if we don’t respond to texts or emails within a couple of hours people assume we are out of touch or don’t like them socially.  To remedy this awkward effect, a new app has been developed that informs our friends “we are taking a break from digital communication”.  Though it might seem like we should be able to...

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Assessing Suicide Risk

Posted by on Sep 20, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Assessing Suicide Risk

Assessing the suicide risk of a patient remains a challenge for health care workers and family members.  Many of the traditional methods, such as verbal reports and the statistics of certain diagnostic categories, are very subjective.  It is paramount, therefore, that new methods of predicting suicide are sought after and studied.  One such promising method entails analyzing the blood of patients to determine the presence of certain biomarkers.  Elevated levels of certain biomarkers have been shown to correlate with increased suicidal...

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Having Siblings Beneficial to Marriage

Posted by on Sep 18, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Having Siblings Beneficial to Marriage

A new study from Ohio State University has found that growing up with siblings increases the likelihood that your marriage will be a success.  Researchers collected data on 57,061 adults between 1972 and 2012 and found that having a sibling lowered the chances of a divorce.  Also, each additional sibling lowered the chances of a divorce by an additional 2 percent.  So what could be going on here?  Well, growing up with siblings forces you to learn some very helpful skills, such as sharing, impulse control, and coping skills.  It turns out...

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Lucky in Long-Distance Love?

Posted by on Sep 16, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Lucky in Long-Distance Love?

It might sound completely outrageous, but there is evidence that many long distance couples actually have a key advantage over other couples.  It all boils down to the process of idealization, which occurs when people romanticize about their partner because they miss them so much.  With the help of modern communication technology, long distance couples are able to email, Skype, and text.  Being apart from each other seems to increase the amount of personal sharing and intimacy that takes place, which may seem counter-intuitive but actually...

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Finding the Right Psychotherapist

Posted by on Sep 13, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Finding the Right Psychotherapist

The fields of psychology and psychiatry have changed a lot over the past 50 years.  It is now common for psychiatrists to only prescribe medication, while the therapy is left to the psychologists.  In terms of therapy, many of the older models relied upon the process of drudging up the past in an attempt to understand current emotional problems.  More recently psychologists have begun to focus more on the present and on setting goals with their clients, realizing that not all past emotional situations are going to be resolved or understood.  ...

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Managing Unwanted Thoughts

Posted by on Sep 11, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Managing Unwanted Thoughts

We have all been there before:  the argument with our partner is finally resolved and things seem to be getting back to normal when all of a sudden a nagging thought begins to surface in our minds.  After a while we may even start to get frustrated with the fact that we are obsessing over a thought in the first place.  How can we break this seemingly impenetrable cycle?  One method is to symbolically rid ourselves of the thought by writing it down and then literally throwing it away.  This process seems to tell our subconscious that we are no...

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Unrealistic Expectations

Posted by on Sep 9, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Unrealistic Expectations

Many of us carry powerful wounds from our childhood, including trust issues and fears of being manipulated or controlled.  When we begin to search for a loving relationship in our adult life we may make the mistake of projecting our unhealed wounds onto our partner, in the hope that they may in some way be the key to our salvation and healing.  In doing this we are actually setting ourselves up for more failure and pain.  The person we originally thought would be the source of redemptive love is unable to live up to our expectations, and the...

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A Committed Partnership

Posted by on Sep 6, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on A Committed Partnership

For some reason or another, commitment issues are usually attributed to men.  While there may be some truth to this notion, it is also important to realize that many women have commitment issues as well.  Instead of generalizing in regards to commitment, it is important to look at relationships on a case to case basis.  Psychologist Scott Stanley took a closer look at married couples in Oklahoma and drew some interesting conclusions.  Most Americans have an inherent misconception that once a marriage is in trouble, it is basically over. ...

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Long Distance Love In The Digital Age

Posted by on Sep 4, 2013 in Recent Couples Counseling Posts | Comments Off on Long Distance Love In The Digital Age

While there are many facets to modern technology that we may never fully comprehend, there do seem to be some conveniences that might help us in terms of better communication.  One example in which this applies is with long distance relationships, or relationships in which one person is forced to travel a lot for work.  The digital age offers many ways to stay connected over a long distance.  Sending small and meaningful messages to each other via text or email is a perfect way to express interest in what your partner is doing.  Logging some...

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