Posts by Jonathan

Trust in Relationships

New research from Northwestern University and Redeemer University College in Ontario has found that having a trusting personality can be the most helpful thing possible for a relationship. Psychologists have always known the importance of trust and its role in attachment theory. In this new study, however, trust is also considered to be a perspective on life. What this means is that people who have a general attitude of trust enjoy better relationships owing to the fact that they are not caught up in worrying about the small things. By focusing on what’s positive, people with trusting...

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Attachment Theory and Social Work

Social work has always seemed to struggle with a lack of resources.  An important question to ask is how those resources are being spent, and whether or not families in need are receiving optimal care.  One theory states that the deterministic ethos underlying policy agendas is creating a narrative of dependency among clients.  Can certain treatment paradigms actually improve the health of clients, and therefore reduce the overall need for treatment services?  Some in the field have developed treatment strategies based upon attachment theory and have found promising results, especially in...

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Is Your Relationship In Trouble?

If you happen to be wondering whether or not your marriage or relationship is in trouble, it probably is. There are some key warning signs you can look for to determine whether or not you and your partner need couples counseling.  For starters, ask yourself if you and your partner are having the same argument over and over.  If so, this indicates that there’s probably a communication problem that needs to be addressed.  You can also ask yourself if it feels like you and your partner are living separate lives, indicating an emotional distance in the relationship.  Traumatic events such...

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Criticizing Our Partner Undermines Our Relationship

It is natural to feel frustrated when our significant other fails to meet our expectations.  Many of us have a certain vision for how our relationship should be, and when our loved ones fail to behave in ways to support this vision, we can become quite annoyed and critical.  Unfortunately, if we constantly criticize our partner, they are going to experience it as rejection and respond defensively.  This will ultimately undermine not only our own goals in the relationship, but the entire health of the relationship as well.  Instead, we should practice being selfless and offering up the best...

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Can This Marriage Survive?

When an affair surfaces in a marriage, it is almost impossible to tell what the consequences will ultimately be.  First of all, it is important to accept the fact that counseling is a necessity for attempting to work through infidelity.  Even then, there are no guarantees that the marriage will survive.  Both parties have to really want to work through the issues.  Usually, this requires a strong connection that goes back many years before the layers of resentment built up.  Also, working through an affair requires both parties to take responsibility for what they may have contributed to the...

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