My method for working with couples is called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT is widely accepted as being the most successful therapeutic approach to creating and restoring loving relationships known today, and I have spent countless hours training with some of the best EFT therapists in the world. Whereas other forms of couple therapy have been shown in studies to be only about 35 percent effective in healing relationships, rigorous studies during the past fifteen years have shown that 70 to 75 percent of couples who go through EFT move from distress to recovery, and up to 85 percent report being happier in their relationships. And the results appear long lasting, even with couples who are at high risk for divorce. In fact, EFT has been recognized by the American Psychological Association as an empirically proven form of couple therapy.
EFT comes from an understanding that emotional connection with a loving, romantic partner is as basic a human need as food, shelter and sex, and that conflict with a husband, wife, or intimate partner can trigger our deepest wounds. When we feel that level of emotional pain it is often hard to articulate our truth with compassion for our self or our partner. My role as a therapist is to guide couples toward a place where they can begin to recognize the cycle of conflict before it escalates, and then step outside of the irrational turmoil to discuss their feelings openly, honestly, and authentically.
Through this process couples learn how to turn towards their partner when they feel unheard, fearful, shameful, or hurt, rather than pulling away, getting angry, complaining, or shutting down. The relationship moves from one of consistent struggle to a well-spring of support and love. Ultimately this work opens the possibility for both partners to be vulnerable with each other, to move beyond built up walls and defenses, and to begin to build emotional bonds that continue to grow long after therapy has ended.
Couples work is my passion and I absolutely love working with both traditional and non-traditional couples in any phase of your relationship. If you are ready to make your relationship better, I will fight hard to help you. If you are looking for a powerful, effective, and lasting opportunity to repair and rebuild your marriage or partnership, contact me today to request a free consultation or schedule an appointment.
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